Anniversary of the Darkest Day In My Life @KilroysDelaware @ed_in_de #netde #eduDE

What is the most horrifying thing you have every seen?  What is the one thing that makes your hair stand and brings tears to your eyes when you picture it every day since?  For me that was hearing a child scream in horror while two adults sat there and did nothing.

One year ago today, I saw my son in the worst emotional state I have ever seen him in.  I should let go of it, and forget.  But I can’t.  That one moment has defined me and shaped me into the person I am today.  I don’t know which was worse, seeing my son like that, or watching one of the adults casually sit there eating a sandwich and doing nothing.

It was at my son’s old school.  Not the public system he is in now.  The other one.  When he got in trouble for dropping a fucking cookie in the cafeteria, and adults made him out to be Hitler reincarnated.  Which culminated in him running to the end of a hall and hiding between a very narrow space between a locker and the wall.  When the two adults found him, he began to scream he began to scream that he wanted to get out.  This screaming went on for half an hour while they sat there…doing nothing.  For me, the screaming has gone on for a year.

It wasn’t until I found him that he came out.  And the two adults, just sitting there, as if they didn’t have a care in the world.  What makes two people be so cold and indifferent?  What makes them think a child’s immediate needs aren’t important?  How can you be so emotionally unattached to pain and suffering?  In my opinion, this is the worst form of child abuse ever.

That is why I’m here, because my son’s screaming continues.  That’s why when people tell me the DOE really does care, that they have our children’s best interests at heart, I don’t buy it for one second.  They have fostered the environment that allows this to happen.  The more I dig, the more I find.  So many of them are just as bad as those two adults a year ago today.  They sit there, and quantify and analyze, while children across the state are suffering, because they care more about a jacked-up curriculum and a test that won’t even be out for another seven months.

I see the adults that do care.  They are real, and they want change as well.  But those in power won’t listen.  I’ve often wondered what part of your soul you have to sell to become like that.  Why is the game more important than the reality?  Is it about money?  Power?  Standing?

To this day, I can’t understand it.  I guess I just wasn’t raised to become an adult that doesn’t care.  If I see something wrong, I will do whatever I can to weed it out and expose it.  And guess what, I may be very focused on this goal.  But I still have my soul and I’m not ashamed.


A father’s cry for his son Re: failure of a Delaware charter school promise

I’ve decided to reblog “Jon’s” story from Kilroys Delaware. It’s long, and wordy, and it was a wonderful experiment Kilroy allowed me to do on his blog. I’ve learned a lot since then, and my hope is readers have as well. I stand firm with my beliefs in this story, and I still want the legislative ideas I had at the end to happen. When this first came out, reactions were varied. And now, here we are, on the cusp of Common Core, testing, and special education task force meetings. The opportunity for change has never been greater. See Exceptional Delaware’s humble beginnings, and see how ripples can be created based on what seem to be unrelated events.

Kilroy's Slower Delaware

The Game Of Puppets

Prologue: of bright skies, future words, and agendas

This is a true story based on lies. It’s a true story in terms of events, but I have change the names of people and places for legal reasons . But that will not diminish the fact that events in it are true.

As an only child, my son Jon was a blessing to his mother and I. His infant and toddler years were rather uneventful, a minor ear condition here, a major stomach flu there. We noticed a lot of energy with Jon at an early age. He was very playful and always smiling. He liked to draw and play with superhero toys and dress up like his favorite characters. He loved to play outside, and his smile could (and still does) melt a thousand winter days. For preschool, we sent him to a church-based curriculum and…

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Part 2 : A father’s cry for his son Re: failure of a Delaware charter school promise #netde #edude

Kilroy's Slower Delaware

The Game Of Puppets

Chapter 1: of hand movement, chewing sweaters, a disturbing conference, and a very odd thing found on a school computer

A Game Of Puppets Fact #1: Choice Theory, as created by William Glasser, states that we all choose how to behave at any time, and cannot control anyone’s behavior but our own.  Choice Theory is the central philosophy of that charter school in the County Of Kent.

A Game Of Puppets Fact #2: In 2004, the United States federal government passed into law the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act.  Part of the law included Child Find, which mandated that public schools must identify, locate and evaluate children suspected of having a disability.  Any school that receives federal funding is considered a public school.  Charter schools receive federal funding.

Jon began first grade at that charter school in the County Of Kent.  He was very excited.  He…

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Part 3 : A father’s cry for his son Re: failure of a Delaware charter school promise #netde #edude

Kilroy's Slower Delaware

Chapter 2: of new faces, a third wheel, cycles, and faces with little import then but huge impacts later

A Game of Puppets Fact #3: That charter school in the County of Kent paid free rent for their elementary school until they had to give up the building. Their high school program ended at the end of that school year and the elementary school went to the high school building.

Game Of Puppets Fact #4: Most pediatricians, psychologists, psychiatrists and neurologists feel young students should be given recess and punitive action should never include taking that time away.

Right before another school year started, multiple events happened that changed Jon’s home world. Both parents were starting new jobs. In fact, Jon’s father was working two jobs, seven days a week. Jon also fractured his wrist while roller skating, and he still had a cast when school started. Jon’s behavior was…

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